Stop Your Relentless Relationship Cycle of Frustration, Dissatisfaction & Rejection.
Get The Love You’ve Always Wanted.
An Accessible, Approachable and Affordable Relationship Program Designed To Help You Turn Conflict Into Connection.
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A 6-Week Program To Create More Intimacy, Have Deeper Conversations & Respect Your Relational Boundaries
Do you want to know why you do what you do, why you react the way you react, and why you find yourself in some of the same situations or frustrations in love? If so, then this course is for you.
Hosted and created by NYC’s top marriage and family therapist, Vienna Pharaon, and Connor Beaton, the founder of ManTalks, a global men’s movement — in this program this powerful couple will teach you how to understand the impact that your past has on your relationships, how to turn conflict into connection, how to set healthy boundaries and how to significantly improve sexual and emotional intimacy…
It doesn't matter whether you're single or partnered, this program takes you on a deep exploration of self and relational awareness so you can get the love you’ve always wanted.
If You Constantly Feel Triggered, Shut Down, Numb Out Or Have The Same Arguments Again & Again & Again...
You are not alone, and there is nothing wrong with you. Too many people are unsatisfied and unhappy with the level of connection, communication, and intimacy in their dating life or relationship but are too self-conscious, insecure, or afraid of rejection to do anything about it.
The truth is, most people struggle to navigate conflict in healthy ways and wonder...
Why do we keep lashing out at each other and bicker nonstop... and how do we resolve it?
What do boundaries look and sound like in real life... and how do I set them in a way that honors both myself and my partner?
How do I repair or deepen intimacy, and explore deeper conversations with love and curiosity?
What do we do when you’re both hurt and unable to communicate with compassion?
How do I ask for what I want and need without pushing my partner away?
What do I do when my partner shuts down and isn’t accessible, and what to do when I AM that partner?
These questions are deeply important. Relationships are the single greatest predictor of our freedom and happiness. Yet when it comes to love, dating, and sex, you’re expected to learn everything your need to know from failed relationships, romantic comedies, and stories from your friends.
When did you last dedicate time to learn about, and take focused steps towards, improving the one thing that matters most?
Most of us were not taught how to have and maintain healthy love, but you don’t have to go through your life without the information and tools necessary to change that.
That’s why we created this course.
Get The Love You Want doesn’t just help you understand your dysfunctional relationship patterns, it gives the tools you need to integrate positive changes and create real and lasting love.
And let’s be real, that’s actually what we’re all after: a relationship that lasts and a partner who brings out the best in us.
Over six weeks, you’ll explore 12 modules on how to have conversations around connection, sex and intimacy that often get overlooked.
We’ve created a safe environment for you to work on your relationship patterns without shame, so you can learn how to create a healthy partnership in a relatable and applicable way.
In the 15,000+ hours we have collectively spent working with singles and couples face to face, we know what areas you need to focus on and explore most. So, if you’re ready to create the love and relationship you want, this course is for you.
What You Will Experience In This Program
You’ll understand why you react the way you do in certain scenarios so you can communicate your needs and emotions effectively, and avoid arguments.
You’ll have an acute awareness of your own harmful patterns and beliefs so you can stop sabotaging your relationships and create a much deeper and more meaningful connection.
You’ll establish clear and healthy boundaries that honor your needs, while breaking down the walls that block you from real intimacy with your partner.
You’ll learn how to move gracefully through conflict, avoid repeated mistakes and stop playing score-keeper in your relationships.
You’ll discover how to connect to your desire and create a safe container for sexual intimacy so you can communicate your wants and your needs confidently.
You’ll finally be able to stand shoulder to shoulder in your relationships as a team with mutual respect, admiration and support.
You’ll become an advocate for yourself and believe that you are worthy of love.
We’ve Spent Over 15,000+ Hours Guiding Couples & Singles Like You
Vienna is one of New York City’s top licensed Marriage and Family Therapists and the founder of the @MindfulMFT community on Instagram, where her teaching reaches over 500,000 readers daily. She has a Master of Science in Marriage & Family Therapy from Northwestern University, and trained extensively at The Family Institute, Bette D. Harris Center.
Through her practice, Mindful Marriage & Family Therapy, Vienna offers a systemic and collaborative approach to help her clients identify their patterns, explore their story, and create healthier goals. She looks at people and their relationships through the lens of their family systems and believes that understanding origin stories is crucial in healing and transformation. She has been featured on The Economist, Netflix, Vogue, and Men’s Health, and spoken on stages around the world.
Connor is the founder of ManTalks, an international men’s movement focused on health, wellness, success, and fulfillment. He is a global speaker and the host of one of the world’s leading men’s podcasts where he’s interviewed experts like Gary Vaynerchuk, Lewis Howes, Mark Groves (of @CreateTheLove), Gabrielle Bernstein, Mastin Kipp and Danielle LaPorte.
He has organized multiple workshops, retreats and programs to help men and women actualize their potential by working through their “shadow”. He has also spoken on stage at TEDx, taken ManTalks to over a dozen cities internationally and has been featured on platforms like Forbes, Influencive, HeForShe, The Good Men Project, UN Women, CBC, CBS, and the National Post.
Since 2018, Vienna and Connor have been working together to organize workshops and retreats for singles and couples around the world. Combining Vienna’s professional background and structured therapy with Connor’s unique approach to self mastery, the two offer collaborative and relatable guidance to help people overcome their relational challenges and create beautiful, long lasting transformation.
What People Say About Get The Love You Want
“I recommend this course for anyone single or in a relationship.”
“You two together are quite the team. This course and your social media presence has opened my eyes in ways I never thought possible without physically going to therapy. Your knowledge and guidance is powerful. I recommend this course for anyone single or in a relationship, struggling to battle things inside their own head and struggling to exist in a relationship with someone who is struggling. Thank you for the time you put into your work and the direction you have given. We need more people like the two of you in this world.”
“The content was laid out so simply and yet so detailed in the ways it got my mind to process.”
“Such an incredible course. Vienna and Connor are AMAZING. The content was laid out so simply and yet so detailed in the ways it got my mind to process. It enabled me to put my thoughts into words on paper with ease. I also LOVED the live coaching calls! They were so generous with their time! I cannot believe the course doesn't cost more for all that they do... thank you BOTH!”
“I see myself, my partner and relationships more clearly”
“The Get the Love you Want Course was some of the most helpful work I’ve ever done. I see myself, my partner and relationships more clearly. I communicate better and now understand boundaries in ways I previously did not. I got more out of it than even expected. Thank you so much!”
“I’ve done a fair amount of this work with previous therapists… but this time the work hit me in a different way.“
“A big thank you to Vienna Pharaon and Connor Beaton. I must say, I wasn’t sure what to expect from an online course, but you two really delivered (I've already been recommending this course to others). I got so much more than I thought I would. I’ve done a fair amount of this work with previous therapists and read a lot of books at different points in my life, but this time the work hit me in a different way. I think it’s because you paired reflecting on the past with tools to use in the present, so it left me feeling empowered instead of broken afterwards. Also, I really enjoyed seeing the two of you interact and share your perspectives, your styles really compliment each other (compassionate and direct).”
“I have honestly learnt more about myself during this period than I have in my entire life”
“I am passing by to THANK YOU for the great journey of self-discovery I have been through in the last weeks. I have honestly learnt more about myself during this period than I have in my entire life. The way you have structured the work was very effective to me. It's been a very revealing journey, in which I have managed to identify my patterns and connect to both my light and shadow. Thank you so much for your wisdom and generosity! I am recommending this to everyone I know.”
Who This Program Is For
In this course, we go deep.
Perhaps you feel like you’re trapped in a cycle of the same frustrating situations.
Perhaps you or your partner are not open or ready to commit to regular couple’s therapy.
Perhaps you’re starting to wonder if you should stay or if you should go.
Perhaps you want to give this relationship one final try.
Or perhaps you’re currently single or fresh from a breakup and are looking to heal and grow from your last relationship.
Get The Love You Want is for couples or singles that are willing to put in the work to explore their depths, have the confronting conversations, and improve their connection to create a healthy and thriving relationship.
This is NOT for those that are looking for an easy button.
If you’re not willing to put in the work, if you simply feel attacked or guarded by reading this page, and if you’re not ready and open to explore and love yourself… then this program is NOT for you.
How Get The Love You Want Works
Transform Your Relationship In Just 6 Weeks
Once you enroll, we’ll send you an email to create your profile where you can instantly access the first two modules. Content will be unlocked as you progress through the program, giving you the time and space you need to fully integrate the tools and practices you learn each week.
Explore Four Key Dimensions of Creating A Healthy Relationship
The course is broken into four parts: Self Awareness & Family Systems, Turning Conflict Into Connection, Boundaries, and Sex & Intimacy. With each module, you’ll get a coaching video with Vienna and Connor that offers guidance, support and training for each of these four key dimensions.
Worksheets & Exercises With Each Module
In each of the 12 modules, you’ll also receive worksheets and practices to integrate the lessons on your own or with your partner. Many of our students have gone through this program multiple times, during and in between different relationships.
Get The Love You Want In 6 Weeks
Module 1 - 2:
How Your Family Systems Shape Your Current Relationship Patterns
The best place for you to start your journey is by looking at the love you observed in the past, as well as the love that you did (or did not) receive from your family systems.
Those relationships — the presence of them, the absence, the negligence, and the hypervigilance — all have an impact on how we view just about everything... but especially love.
In the first two modules, you’ll begin to bridge the gap between your family systems and your intimate relationships to help you see how the pain from the past has led to the pattern of conflict in your present.
Module 3 - 5:
Understand Your Defense Mechanisms, Show Up Differently & Turn Conflict Into Connection
Conflict can be one of the greatest gateways to intimacy, understanding and healing. But most of us didn’t experience or observe healthy conflict, and because of that, we find it hard to trust that something positive can come out of it.
Instead, we only see abuse, abandonment, passive aggressiveness, avoidance or even the silent treatment!
In these modules, you’ll zone in on your own defense mechanisms, understand “The Four Horsemen Of The Apocalypse” (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling), learn how to show up differently, and discover how the masculine and feminine energy respectively play a role in how you can react or connect in conflict.
Module 6 - 8:
How To Identify, Set & Honor Healthy Boundaries For You And Your Relationship
Boundaries are the invisible line between you and everything that isn’t you. They decide what’s okay and not okay, and then teach others what they can and cannot do.
The best way to set healthy relationship boundaries is to get curious about how you react, and whether you’re seeking to connect or protect. Healthy boundaries require you to bring your voice forward in a grounded way, so it’s important to look at all of the things that make that difficult.
In these modules, you’ll learn to discern between healthy and unhealthy boundaries, how they show up in your relationship, and how to best honor them to both connect and protect you.
Module 9 - 12:
How To Release Sexual Shame, Communicate Your Desires And Foster Greater Intimacy
It’s your own work to identify what you want, crave and desire to experience. Intimacy is the path that lets you receive and give awareness to yourself and others.
In order to explore sexual intimacy, you also have to look at sexual shame and where it originates from — be it religion, abuse, a repressed parent or a constant comparison to others.
In these last four modules, you’ll understand the power dynamics within sexual intimacy, what’s required to set the mood and how to master the art of sexual initiation.
You’ll also discover how to integrate practices that can lead you to expansion, healing, and connection with yourself as well as your current or potential partner.
What People Have Said About Working With Vienna & Connor…
“I feel like I cried and healed 35 years of trauma.”
“This retreat was nothing short of magical. It was truly an emotional and transformative experience for me. I feel like I cried and healed 35 years of trauma. it was not easy — it took so much courage.. but i have never in my life felt the release and breakthrough that i did during this retreat. I know that life will be a continuous work in progress, but you have both set such a strong and clear foundation on how to navigate through life's soul work.”
“Words can't describe how powerful and impactful this experience was for me!”
“Amazing! Incredible! Words can't describe how powerful and impactful this experience was for me! Transformational, in every sense of the word. As the only person of color, Connor and Vienna and all of the beautiful people who went, and the amazing and attentive staff, showed me such kindness and warmth and compassion that it blew my mind. They saw my humanity, embracing all of me, and I am grateful. I used to hear about experiences that change your life and believed it to be all hype and hyperbole. But after this, I am a believer!”
“I would recommend this to anyone looking to do the work to be able to achieve wholeness and happiness.”
“I was looking for a transformation to move forward out of old patterns. Out of armour, masks and shields I was using with people to protect myself from vulnerability and from being seen. I was tired of being stuck. I was tired of not being able to move beyond my wounding and the stories I was telling myself. This all changed over the course of 3 days and I have walked away with a lightness, a new story, and a new set of friends willing to support my continual transformation. I would recommend this to anyone looking to do the work to be able to achieve wholeness and happiness.”
“I went to the retreat feeling defeated in an area of my life and left with a newfound peace and hope again”
“The singles retreat with Vienna and Connor exceeded my expectations. To be honest, I had no idea what I was getting into because I had never done something like this before. It’s hard to put into words what this retreat did for my heart and soul. I not only see myself differently but I see others differently, in the most profound and beautiful way. I bared my heart and soul to a group of strangers and the transformation that happened is something that I will always hold sacred. My journey at the Dutchess taught me to honor my inner voice AND trust it. I went to the retreat feeling defeated in an area of my life and left with a newfound peace and hope again. I can’t recommend this experience enough.”
“The best investment I ever made in myself”
“The singles retreat was the best investment I ever made in myself. I signed up with a goal of learning how to find and have a healthy, fulfilling relationship and left the retreat with not only the tools to do so but also a deeper understanding that I truly, truly deserve it. I feel so lucky to have had this experience and to share it with some of the kindest, warmest, most badass people I've ever met. Words can't express how much I appreciate Vienna, Connor, and Stephanie for hosting this retreat — thank you so much!”
What You Get When You Enroll Now
12 x Coaching videos with Vienna and Connor
12 x Downloadable worksheets for all program modules
Access to a private community hosted by Vienna and Connor on Facebook
Lifetime access to the Get The Love You Want program
This Program Could Easily Be Worth Over $8,500
Having worked with thousands of singles and couples in our combined experience, we realize that carving out the time, energy and finances to commit to regular therapy or an immersive multi-day retreat is an investment that many can’t afford.
As a result, they’re often left having to loosely piece together information from videos, blog posts or articles that they can find on the web.
Unfortunately, without the right kind of expert guidance on how to integrate these relational tools and practices, many stay stuck in the relentless relationship cycle of frustration, dissatisfaction and rejection – with little to no progress.
The quality of your relationships, as you know, will ultimately impact not only your happiness, but your wellbeing and well — your entire life...
And we don’t want you to have to table your needs or press pause on getting the love that you deserve.
We know that therapy isn’t always an option. That’s why we created this 6-week program.
It was built to bring you the proven tools and practices you’d typically pay thousands of dollars for in traditional therapy in an accessible, affordable and applicable way…
And at a fraction of the price.
The Get The Love You Want program – hour for hour – is valued at over $8,500.
We know that's not realistic for most people, and we know that times are especially hard right now. The current climate means that navigating intimacy and connection has become even more challenging. Other more pressing concerns and expenses may take priority. Movements are restricted and financial uncertainty is at its peak.
That’s why, we’ve decided to price this program at only $347. That’s less than what it would cost for a single hour with one of us.
Plus, we’ve unlocked an easy 2-pay option to make saying YES even easier for you today.
All we ask is that you show up and be willing to dive deep, explore further and do the work to get the love that you want.
Start Your Journey To Get The Love You Want Today
- 12 x Coaching & Training Videos with Vienna and Connor ($6,000 Value)
- 12 x Downloadable worksheets for all program modules ($1,200 Value)
- Access to a private community hosted by Vienna and Connor on Facebook ($1,000 Value)
- Lifetime access to the Get The Love You Want program
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